Almost anyone with a television knows the phrase "You are NOT the father" very well. For those that are not familiar, it is a quote from the Maury Povich show where he provides DNA tests for women and men that have questions regarding the paternity of their children. While observing the ignorance of others may sometimes be entertaining, I can only watch so much of that and find it sad that so many women do not know who fathered their children. I try not to judge but damn! There was a woman on the show one day that had over 15 men tested and NONE of them was the father. I respect her determination but of course have to question her morals, humility, and parenting skills, or lack thereof.
By the time you make it to the Maury show it's too late for shoulda, coulda, wouldas. The deed is already done and the child is here. Now comes the public humiliation of admitting to the world through tears that you slept with at least 2 men in a relatively close amount of time and often cheating on one with one or more others. My real issue with the scenario is not the cheating, though of course I know that's wrong, or the loose morals. For me the issue is that most of the women come on the show claiming to KNOW and be at least 1000% sure that some poor sap is the father. They even get family members, often their own "mothers", to participate in their foolishness. They argue at a tv screen while pointing out the facial "similarities" between the man and the child. Before coming to the show these men have been harassed and publicly called deadbeats. On the show they're booed, screamed at, and made out to be the scum of the earth. Then the results are read. Dun dun dunnn......
In the case of 3 year old Roger Jr., Roger, Tyrell, and J-Money, YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER!
And now for the real drama. The maternal figure (they don't behave like a mother, so I won't call them that) runs off the stage to the back hallway and throws herself on the floor or nearest couch. Hilarious but again, sad.
First, the person participating on the side of the maternal figure was neither the bed nor the bed post when all of the careless sex was taking place, yet they feel they have the right to participate in the circus. Second, if you know you were sleeping around, don't act like you KNOW who the baby daddy is, chasing and harassing that man. Some of these "women" have even collected child support! Third, don't act shocked, like you are the last one to know, that the baby isn't his.
If I were ever caught up in a situation like this, while completely unlikely, I would not further embarrass myself and my child and make a public spectacle of my poor judgement by going on television and telling the world I was giving it up on the playground. I would keep it to myself! Finally, to the "women" that have been or are considering going on the show, DON'T! They sell home DNA test online and at Walgreen's. Inbox me and I'll tell you where you can get the test done for $99 by a doctor. Find some self-respect, not pride, self-respect. There is a difference. Yes, there is something wrong with not knowing who your baby daddy is. And no, it's not okay to tell the world.
Your body is a temple but that shouldn't mean all men are welcome to enter!
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Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
What I think about it.
My only real follower thus far posted thoughts on my topics and I've been trying to post my thoughts. I've run into some technical difficulties so I decided my daily post today will be my thoughts on her thoughts.
1.Red said that she's sick and tired of seeing peoples' dirty underwear.
-First, many people wear their clothes too small, thus exposing their underwear. That needs to stop! All the bellies hanging out in addition to the underwear showing are a MESS! Not a good look. Bellies are big, stomachs are flat. I have a belly but it NEVER hangs out. Real women and men should know their real size.
-Second, and probably most important, we should only see your dirty underwear if we are looking through your hamper. If you are grown and wearing dirty underwear, you should be ashamed! I think the problem is that as a society, especially women, we have no humility and thus no shame. Pride comes before the fall. All the cursing, loud talking, and general lack of respect for others is contributing to our downfall.
2.Red also said that people should stop complaining and go get what they want.
-I agree completely. I think the problem is that we have become too lazy and complacent. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change you. You can't keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. That's insanity! I know sometimes it's hard to admit our own faults but sometimes the problem really is YOU! "I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer, if you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at YOURSELF and make that CHANGE!"-Michael Jackson, RIP
-Also too many people are ready to listen to the complaints and even feed into it instead of keeping it real. If you know your friend is sloppy, messy, and lazy, don't attend her pity party when her man leaves or cheats. Tell her the truth! You are doing her a disservice if you don't. I'm not saying be rude or nasty, but be honest, tactfully. She may not want to be your friend after that, but do you really want a sloppy, messy, and lazy friend? You should want better for yourself just like her man does. We should be trying to help, support, and up-lift one another. Is she really your friend if you can't be honest with her and if she's not taking care of her own world, how can she help or uplift you?
Think about it!
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1.Red said that she's sick and tired of seeing peoples' dirty underwear.
-First, many people wear their clothes too small, thus exposing their underwear. That needs to stop! All the bellies hanging out in addition to the underwear showing are a MESS! Not a good look. Bellies are big, stomachs are flat. I have a belly but it NEVER hangs out. Real women and men should know their real size.
-Second, and probably most important, we should only see your dirty underwear if we are looking through your hamper. If you are grown and wearing dirty underwear, you should be ashamed! I think the problem is that as a society, especially women, we have no humility and thus no shame. Pride comes before the fall. All the cursing, loud talking, and general lack of respect for others is contributing to our downfall.
2.Red also said that people should stop complaining and go get what they want.
-I agree completely. I think the problem is that we have become too lazy and complacent. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change you. You can't keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. That's insanity! I know sometimes it's hard to admit our own faults but sometimes the problem really is YOU! "I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways. No message could have been any clearer, if you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at YOURSELF and make that CHANGE!"-Michael Jackson, RIP
-Also too many people are ready to listen to the complaints and even feed into it instead of keeping it real. If you know your friend is sloppy, messy, and lazy, don't attend her pity party when her man leaves or cheats. Tell her the truth! You are doing her a disservice if you don't. I'm not saying be rude or nasty, but be honest, tactfully. She may not want to be your friend after that, but do you really want a sloppy, messy, and lazy friend? You should want better for yourself just like her man does. We should be trying to help, support, and up-lift one another. Is she really your friend if you can't be honest with her and if she's not taking care of her own world, how can she help or uplift you?
Think about it!
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Thursday, March 24, 2011
Work on you!
I am the master of my own destiny! I am responsible for my own happiness!
News flash:
You are responsible for yours too!
If there are people or things in your life that are making you unhappy, it's up to you to do something about it. Complaining does not constitute doing something about it! If you don't like your job, get a new one. If you are not happy in a relationship, either end it or figure out a way to be happy in it. If you don't like something about your appearance, make yourself over. Simple and easy right? Not really. But it is possible. Sometimes the easiest part is deciding that things need to change and the hardest part is realizing that what needs to change is you.
News flash:
You can't change anyone but yourself!
There are people that come into your life and some people you begin your life with(family) that only bring negativity into your life and mean you no good. Once you recognize these people for what they are and identify their treachery, you must either eliminate them from your life or, as the old people used to say, treat them with a long handled spoon. You can't change them but you can change your relationship with them by changing how you respond to things they say and do to you.
If you have comments or questions, please post them and they will be answered. If you have a situation you would like advice or help with, post it and I will offer my insight. Thank you for reading.
News flash:
You are responsible for yours too!
If there are people or things in your life that are making you unhappy, it's up to you to do something about it. Complaining does not constitute doing something about it! If you don't like your job, get a new one. If you are not happy in a relationship, either end it or figure out a way to be happy in it. If you don't like something about your appearance, make yourself over. Simple and easy right? Not really. But it is possible. Sometimes the easiest part is deciding that things need to change and the hardest part is realizing that what needs to change is you.
News flash:
You can't change anyone but yourself!
There are people that come into your life and some people you begin your life with(family) that only bring negativity into your life and mean you no good. Once you recognize these people for what they are and identify their treachery, you must either eliminate them from your life or, as the old people used to say, treat them with a long handled spoon. You can't change them but you can change your relationship with them by changing how you respond to things they say and do to you.
If you have comments or questions, please post them and they will be answered. If you have a situation you would like advice or help with, post it and I will offer my insight. Thank you for reading.
Thursday, March 10, 2011
New Blog, Day 2
So today is day 2 of my blog and I'm currently the only person following my own blog. I'm still trying to figure out this whole blogging phenomenon. I'm not up to too much today, celebrating the lives of a few loved ones with birthdays today and yesterday, and trying to take over the world, as usual.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Opening Day
Welcome to my blog. This is my first post on my first day of this new adventure. As we are at the beginning, it's only appropriate to begin with some general information. The purpose of this blog is to help people be the best they can be, with a focus on those who realize they can be better. I'll post my thoughts and offer advice and other information I think is useful. I'm open to all respectful suggestions and constructive criticism and will offer the same when possible. I expect my blog to be entertaining and educational and will do what I can to make it just that. It is not my intention to offend anyone or hurt anyone's feelings, but this is the real (virtual) world and I will keep it as real as I can.
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